The routine of a family member caring for an elderly relative is already heavy, with constant demands. When a loved one suffers from progressive disease with devastating effects, the situation becomes even more difficult. In the midst of difficulties, however, Fernanda Frank, 36, decided to share with her grandmother, Amida Guerrero Besan, a moment of lightness and a sense of belonging that she experienced every day. The elderly woman is 91 years old and suffers from Alzheimer’s, a degenerative disease commonly found in the elderly that results in progressive and persistent memory loss.
“I would say that I love caring for my grandmother, because I really love her. It’s a story of love and dedication, “says Fernanda, who bets on a mix of love and humor on her Instagram profile, showing her daily snippets with her grandmother.
On Instagram, the young woman also shares the daily life of an elderly caregiver who needs attention. “Caregivers also need to pay close attention. I think sometimes people don’t see that side. “
History of partnership
Fernanda says her grandmother was born in Biguaku (SC), the city she still lives in, and had 12 children. “She was always very hardworking, very warrior. All the kids always commented that she worked for 10 years, because she really is a warrior, ”she says.
Amida took care of her children and Fernanda’s mother, Maria Besan, 71, was always very close to her. When Fernanda was 3 years old, the pensioner emigrated, but asked her daughter to go with her. The two then went to Amida’s house, who took care of Fernanda while Maria was working.
“In the past, my grandmother was not very sweet, her way was more difficult. And I’ve always been sensitive, I’ve always been very attached, Crybaby and all, “she recalls.
Despite their different natures, their relationship has always remained close. His sexual orientation, for example, has never been a problem for his grandmother, who treats his girlfriends like a “queen.”
“I have always had a good relationship with her. I honestly don’t remember the quarrel, she helped me as much as she could, sometimes she gave me a little money. It’s been a very close relationship since I was little. “
Fernanda’s first concern came in her teens, when her grandmother had a serious accident and underwent surgery. “I will go to the hospital, take her by the hand and say ‘Grandma, you are going to live a long time, you are going to be very old, I will take care of you’. And it’s weird that I’ve always said it so, so, so strongly, “he says.
It took a while for Alzheimer’s to be diagnosed. Fernanda remembers the first signs that her grandmother started making up stories about one of her daughters who lived with her, accusing her of stealing money.
This struggle was not limited to one girl. Responsibility, in the end, remained with Maria, then the other sister could not bear the difficulties of dealing with an elderly person suffering from Alzheimer’s.
“My mother didn’t understand anything. The wrong answers made her very aggressive and irritable. My grandmother always wanted to go, she was always dressed, she didn’t like to take a bath… in short, it was a very difficult time for everyone. “
For personal reasons, Fernanda, who had already immigrated, returned to live with her mother in 2017. Once there, she had to deal with a situation where she only had contact on weekends. She then began researching the disease and found other profiles on the Internet that shared the pain and joy of caring for an elderly person.
Inspired, she created a profile on Instagram and began recording videos dedicating herself to caring for her grandmother, who loved recording. “Grandma loved to see herself. She looked at each other and didn’t recognize herself, so there was a lot of laughter, it was really cool, and to this day it’s really cool. “
At the same time, the young woman says that in order to avoid conflicts with other members of her grandmother’s family, she began to treat the disease a little differently, “a little better.” When Amida was looking for her husband, who died 14 years ago, Fernanda replied that she was working instead of arguing.
“It simply came to our notice then. Grandma is confused, but we already know how to deal with the situation, “he says. “It’s all based on love, a lot of love, a lot of restraint, a lot of dedication. Bathing is quiet, eating is quiet, cleanliness is all very quiet, but it is because we learn to deal with it. ”
“It simply came to our notice then. Today, we do some publications [anúncios no Instagram] Who pay little, “he concludes.
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